She agreed that she was taking it really slow, but it’s because she didn’t want to repeat her mistakes of the past.I brought up that what I needed right now was clarity and security, and we talked for a bit about what it meant to be boyfriend and girlfriend.Long story short, she was asking me why I wanted to be her boyfriend.I finally figured out that what she needed to know was why I was choosing her instead of any of the millions of girls in the city.Neither of us have brought it up and seeing how it’s only been a few months, I don’t want push her away with the "are we exclusive" topic.Dear Brian, One of my clients had the same exact issue going on during his burgeoning relationship.
I wrote about this extensively for Match.com’s Happen Magazine last year. The conversation kind of naturally went towards past relationships, and she told me how she has a history of rushing into things.
And if she can’t make that promise to you, then you’re going to have to think long and hard as to whether you want to commit to someone who is so decidedly indifferent towards you.
Do this and you’ll know where you stand soon enough.
I should say that we do "make out" but no intercourse.
I have no problem waiting until she is ready for sex, but I would feel much better about it if we were exclusive.
Basically, she didn’t want to have sex unless she knew things were going to be around for a while.