The only way she'll find out is by asking him to be honest. She had two children from a previous marriage and felt, for their sakes too, she should be in a committed relationship.'I wanted to be a good role model to my daughter and show her that, if a man really loves you, he'll want to marry you,' she explains.Perhaps, if cracks truly are appearing in Prince Charles and Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall's marriage as reported in this paper last week, it has something to do with the fact the couple procrastinated for years before tying the knot?Of course, if ever a couple had reasons to delay marriage, they did.And you need to sit down and have an honest conversation about how you both see your future.It may be painful, which is why so many of us avoid the conversation in the first place.in my experience as a relationship counsellor and psychologist, there's a golden window of opportunity in which to get married - between 18 months and three years after your first date.If you've not walked down the aisle in that time, something may well be wrong with your relationship - and a belated wedding won't fix it.
But his girlfriend, Hannah, 32, a marketing director, had spent her life dreaming of a white wedding. They'd been together five years when Hannah gave Anthony an ultimatum. Some men - and women - find it difficult to make life-changing decisions.Take the actress Calista Flockhart, who recently wed Harrison Ford after an eight-year courtship.I'm sure the smile on her face on her wedding day showed she feels it's been worth the wait and, like any bride, she must have been fizzing with excitement.So, what has been making Ford, who has four children from his previous marriages, drag his feet for so long?And - more importantly - what made him finally change his mind? Or has she simply worn him down by sheer persistence?
Others put all the pressure they can muster on their man, have the wedding of their dreams and then find it turn to ashes because they haven't addressed the underlying problems that kept them from the altar in the first place.