(Parenting.com) -- You've mastered the playdate, but now it's time for the date-date.
If you're feeling nervous or confused about entering the complex world of dating again, you're not alone. Cheese, library, my backyard -- I don't really find myself in adult environments these days.
Still, less is more, says Deborah Roth Ledley, Ph D, licensed psychologist, founder of the website The Calm and author of "Becoming a Calm Mom: How to Manage Stress and Enjoy the First Year of Motherhood." "Keep it simple and say something like, 'I've been feeling so lonely and it is time for me to start meeting some new people.' If your child asks a question about your date, respond with a short and simple answer, but if they are satisfied with the initial statement, change the subject to homework or something important to them." Parenting.com: The easy way to answer kids' toughest questions When Do I Introduce the Kids?
Problem: I've been dating a nice man consistently for seven weeks and I'm wondering if it's time to introduce my 10-year-old son to him. --Diane, 40, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania Solution: Just like you don't tell your kid everything, you don't have to introduce them to everyone.
But, is it OK to be honest about dating with my child?
Check the 'yes' box that you have a kid, and when it comes to filling in your 'About Me' box, mention in one brief sentence that you have a child you're nuts about.
How do I have my adult fun when the date is on a time schedule?
--Shannon, 29, Avon, Ohio Solution: Yes, you can have your cake, eat and enjoy it too.
But then, use the rest of the space to talk about nothing but you.
This is the one area of your life that isn't about what your child wants, but about what you want." For example, tell potential suitors what books you like to read (this is an Elmo-free zone), latest movie you saw (Don't you dare say Toy Story), what food you like to cook (chicken nuggets don't count even if you prepare them every, single day!
"It's hard to meet your match when everyone you're hanging out with is under three feet tall." She recommends, instead of heading to kid-centered places, to try some kid-friendly ones, where you might be able to scope out a cutie.